No man's princess

I admit that lately I have a difficult time feeling as if I am special by any means. I can feel tugs in my lonely heart as if the Spirit is urgently trying to get me to remember I matter. Hopeful this is a temporary phase and mostly a result of circumstance and memories of several Februaries passed, I don't mean to post in this tone as if I have no joy, hope, love, or other blessings in my life. I wanted to share a verse I will use as a focus for when the girl in the mirror is trying to disagree:

"Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me..." 2 Timothy 4:8

I am no princess to any "prince" on this earth, but it is comforting to think there is a King who believes I'm already His princess. We are all royalty to this King. Someday I'll sell the rhinestone tiara that I wore 6 Februaries ago because it only means broken promises and tarnished memories. But I'll gladly wear the crown of righteousness God has for me because I "have longed for His appearing." Even if it doesn't always feel like it, I will do better if I focus on the royalty God sees in me. I am someOne's princess...thank You, Your Majesty.

...and thank you, Heather, for giving voice to His stirring in me. I needed to hear it. :)

Act Like a Princess

Tonight as I watched Enchanted (great movie, by the way!), I was inspired to write this post. As women, many of us were once little girls who dreamed of being a princess, in a pretty ball gown, with our hair perfect, the perfect waist line, grace, poise, wonderful singing voice, and most of all a loving and handsome prince head over heals in love for us! Well, I certainly love a good fairy tale and I admit that my desire for one probably gets me in trouble from time to time with reality.

However, I was reminded tonight that maybe if the little girl in every woman pushed her to go for that dream of becoming a princess that perhaps she would find her prince and her happily ever after. If indeed a woman acted like a princess, would she be any less important, prestigious, strong, intelligent, capable, trustworthy or respected? My answer is of course not! The phrase "acting like a princess" is often used to refer to someone who is spoiled, selfish, or conceited, and when a man "treats a woman like a princess" it is assumed he caters to her every whim, holds her in an unrealistic regard, or that he gives himself and his dreams and goals up all for her happiness. I think these negative connotations are discouraging and it is my goal to change how people view a princess.

I will add that in reality a princess may lead a life unlike any we American women can even imagine, and also that a princess' life is probably far more demanding then we'd ever desire. But I am mostly referring to a fairy tale princess, the kind we girls grow up admiring and dreaming of becoming. Here is a list of qualities of a princess:

• she is kind


• she is beautiful on the inside, and cares about how she presents as well


• she is forgiving, understanding, and gracious


• she cares about animals and children, and in general all people's comfort


• she looks for the good in life and in people


• she trusts


• she believes in herself


• she is honest


• she is hopeful, even in the presence of evil


• she does not tolerate evil


• she shows respect to all creatures


• she mediates and attempts to help people get along


• she lifts up her man, supports him, and believes in him


• she is easy to please and enjoys life


• she is generous


• she is joyful


• she accepts help and is grateful

I'm sure I'm leaving some observations out. But after watching this movie, and thinking back to other fairy tales and stories with princesses, I wonder if it's really such a bad thing to act like a princess. Once I was told that I would always be treated like a princess, and I hope that I get a chance to act like a princess in return for the favor.

In what ways can you act like a princess? What qualities of a princess could make you a better woman?